There is so much fear associated with grief. Before a loved one dies, we fear how we will be able to live without them. We fear when we will never be with them again. We fear how we will handle the loneliness. I could go on and on. Dr. Gerald Jampolsky wrote a book called Love Is […]
I recently saw the statement, “In the darkness, you’ll also find light.” This reminded me of grief. So often, especially in early grief, we can feel that we are sitting in darkness. I remember days like that where I could sit for hours just feeling unhappy and lonely until one day I said to myself […]
I recently learned a grief related term that I hadn’t heard of before and realized that is probably because widow’s may be unlikely to talk about it. Widow’s Fire can be defined as an intense longing for physical intimacy which can be experienced by both women and men who are grieving the death or absence […]
Of all the challenges that people face while grieving, the one I hear the most about is loneliness. This can happen before and or after the death of a loved one. As we get older, most often we become less social because often it is just too hard. Maybe you can’t drive and don’t have […]
While dealing with, grief we often forget to smile. We aren’t noticing things that are still there that we would have smiled about in the past. An easy way to deal with this issue is to be mindful. I noted that I wasn’t feeling very happy lately, so I started paying attention to my surroundings, […]
So many times, we automatically choose to see the negative view of things like Debbie Downer on Saturday Night Live. She just never saw things that were positive. That is an easy trap to fall into when you are already feeling low like when you are grieving. The good news is, when you pay attention […]
An old song from 2003 written by Bobby Solo sometimes gets stuck in my head: Feelings, nothing more than feelings, Trying to forget my, Feelings of love It’s a sad song about living without the lover he no longer has. Many times, relationships end before both people in the couples ar ready. The best way […]
Dreams that come while sleeping come in an unlimited variety. They can be from memories, from desires, from sadness, from joy, or from and entirely unknown source. They range from terrifying to incredible happiness. While they can affect our lives in some ways, the more powerful dreams that we have come from while we are […]
We’ve all heard “Whatever happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas,” but I heard “Whatever happens in vagueness, stays in vagueness,” and that made me think. Am I living in vagueness? In early grief I certainly was. I remember that even though I live on Maui with radiant tropical flowers and spectacular sunsets, everything seemed grey […]
We tend to be influenced by the people around us. When someone is in a bad mood, do you feel that affecting you? Or when your companions are laughing and smiling, do you smile along? When I worked in the Emergency Room at the hospital, when I had to give someone sad news and they […]
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