You have probably discovered by now that grief isn’t something you get over. When someone you love dies, that love stays with you at least for the rest of your life. And that is good. I often hear people say that they lost a loved one, but they aren’t lost. Their essence remains in your heart as long as it is beating.
Try this. When you are missing your loved one, find someplace quiet to sit. I love to sit outside in nature with the fragrance of the flowers and the whisper of the breeze on my cheek. Close your eyes. Put both hands on your heart and take in a slow deep breath, then blow it out though your mouth like you are blowing through a straw. Breathing this way gives you a re-set. Mary Morrissy taught me that breathing technique. It’s a quick way to feel at peace. I do it often. You can too.
While you are enjoying this peaceful experience, allow your thoughts to drift to beautiful times you shared with your loved one. Where were you? What were you saying. What were you doing. How did you feel? Paint a picture in your mind of what you were experiencing at the time. You can create this experience any time you want to and allow it to bring you comfort.
When you notice someone you care about is struggling with grief, invite them to come sit with you quietly. You may choose to share with them the process I described, or you can just listen to their thoughts, or just sit in silence. Just being with someone grieving can be the greatest gift to them. And it can bring peace to you also.
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