When I was a child, I spent much time alone. I discovered that if I found ways to keep myself busy, I didn’t feel lonely. I was creating my own happiness. Have you done something like this too? People may resort to isolation while grieving to avoid having to listen to others or even to […]
I never dreamed I would live in Hawaii. I had been a California girl all my life. My husband Ron and I had purchased a home that we loved in Ventura, and I thought it was our forever home. I was surprised when that idea changed. He lived on Maui many years before I met […]
Valentine’s Day can be a trigger for people who are grieving. Growing up I always looked forward to Valentine’s Day. In our classrooms, we always had an art project where we would create a very large envelope that we decorated and hung on the wall. Then most of the students would put little valentines in […]
So many of us experience different levels of fear throughout our grieving. Initially, the fear of being alone or just missing our loved one is almost universal. As time goes on, many more fears can arise like fear of being able to pay the bills or fear of losing contact with our friends. Right now, […]
Years ago, someone told me all about the benefits of grounding, and I’ve got to admit, I didn’t believe his story. He claimed that attaching a wire to his bed sheets and running it outside through his window, then burying that wire in the ground ensured that he was sleeping better than he ever had […]
I recently spent some time in bed while recovering from a procedure, and decided to find something on television that wouldn’t take up any head space. I randomly picked a series called Everwood, and I was immediately sucked into the story of a very famous neurosurgeon in Manhattan who, when his wife was killed in […]
I was reading The Lost Bookshop by Evie Woods when I came across a quote that stuck with me: “Grief is a constant companion.” It led me to think about my loved ones who have gone before me. That’s not hard to do since I see reminders of them every day. I had a particular […]
I drove through the line at Starbucks yesterday, a guilty pleasure I seldom treat myself to. I was looking forward to my order when I noticed a Barista smiling pleasantly at me from the big screen where I gave my order. I don’t know if she always smiles or if she was reflecting my smile […]
“Knot by Knot I untie myself from the past.” Charles Wright, American Poet Reading this quote, I reflected on all the knots that I have untied related to grief. Many of the knots were locked in the ropes tightly bound around my feet, my hands, my brain, and my heart. The metaphorical ropes tied to […]
I saw a commercial on television where people from a neighborhood had gathered to watch a Christmas movie projected on a garage door. Families all seemed to be smiling and happy while enjoying S’mores they made over open fires. What I didn’t understand was that they were all bundled up and sitting in the snow. […]