I have a confession to make. After my husband died, I found it harder and harder to get out of bed in the morning. I just didn’t feel ready to face the world. First, I would try to convince myself that there was no need to rush, and that led to more sleep. Then I […]
When I read what people are saying in some of the grief groups I follow, I notice that many people are stuck in their grief. The gist of what I hear is that people feel that if they lighten up on their grief, they somehow will lose the connection with their loved one who died. […]
I am thrilled to hear that President Biden has proposed the Family Medical Leave Act which would include bereavement leave. Although this hasn’t passed yet, and we can’t know exactly what it will stipulate until it is enacted if it is, at least it is a step in the right direction. Allowing adequate time for […]
I wrote an open letter to Moms who have had pregnancy losses, stillborn babies, and infants and young children who died. I am sharing this letter with you today in case you are in this special sisterhood of moms, or if you know someone who is. Please share this message for any mom you know […]
I started a Produce Share with neighbors when we first moved to Maui because we had such an abundance of fruit on our property, and I didn’t want it to go to waste. Every Friday, people would stop by and bring what they had to spare from their gardens, and we would share, no money […]
I had a good friend who was there for me years ago when I was struggling with my grief. My parents had died, and I had such a big hole in my life. My Dad died first, suddenly, and I had so much to do with helping mom deal with all that needed to be […]
“There are only two emotions: love and fear.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Throughout time, many philosophers and psychiatrists have said that the only two emotions are love and fear. There is even scientific research agreeing with that theory. Kathleen Seeley told me that we are only born with two fears: fear of falling and a fear of […]
Here is the dilemma. There is no ideal way to grieve. Each grief is as individual as each fingerprint. How you grieve depends on lots of different considerations: How long did you know who you are grieving for? How close were you to this person? What are your personal feelings about death? What do you […]
I can just hear you say, what does doodling have to do with grief? Think about it, what have you doodled in your life? I remember in junior high school the days seemed interminable. In my class notes, you could find a countdown for the number of minutes left in class, or you’d find my […]
I saw on the news last night about another mass shooting. They showed a picture of each of the ten victims and shared who they were. I found myself teary, which led to actually crying. I didn’t know any of these people and I’ve only been to Colorado once, so I asked myself why this […]
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