Do you ever have trouble making up your mind? Maybe you’re not sure which ice cream flavor to choose. Or maybe you don’t know if you want to play pickleball today. Or you don’t know who to vote for. When the fog rolls over your decision-making process, you have trouble giving a simple answer, and this just leads to frustration for you as well as the person you are talking to. This situation often occurs to someone who is grieving.
I went through a time where I simply could not give yes or no answers. The questions didn’t seem important enough for me to think about. My loved one died. Nothing else mattered — except it did.
When the time comes when you do have to decide on something, be easy on yourself. Don’t rush. Find and weigh the pros and cons of a potential answer, then make your decision mindfully. You may be saying, “I know all this.” And maybe your do, but don’t fool yourself. Just do the best you can at the time.
There will come a time when the fog lifts and you can see clearly. Look forward to this and know that it is coming your way. One day you will realize that you have stepped up out of the fog. Cherish this discovery knowing you are making progress in working through your grief. Every day can be brighter than the last one when you focus on the peace and light ahead of you, and you make clear solid decisions on the way.
Enjoy your journey!
Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief
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